You may have thought about using sex toys as a couple, but have felt uncomfortable about it. Trying something new can be scary at first, so let's see if we can help you out.
Sex Toy Myths
Sex toys are for perverts, sluts, or weirdoes. This could not be further from the truth. All kinds of people use toys: doctors, lawyers, mechanics, housewives, secretaries, teachers, you name it. Talk to some friends, you'd be surprised how common they are!
You don't want to intimidate your partner. Communication is key here. Wanting to start using sex toys doesn't mean that he/she is not good enough in bed, it just means you want to spice it up!
You don't want to become addicted. Ha! Yes, a sex toy can give you a nice, hard orgasm, but nothing can take the place of a lover's touch.
Sex toys are for masturbation. While toys are commonly enjoyed for solo sex, they are just as fun when used together. There are actually only a few types of toys that were meant to be used alone.
So why use sex toys? Simple. They feel good, they're fun, and they make sex better. Orgasms feel good, and sex toys can enhance them significantly. Obviously the stimulation they provide will heighten your orgasm, but so will the excitement of trying something different. Who could complain about that? They can also help with women who have difficulty achieving orgasms without clitoral stimulation, or men who wish to hold their erection longer, making the act much more enjoyable.
Starting Out with Sex Toys
So, maybe now you're thinking about how great sex toys are, but how to go about actually using them. Going to a store to purchase sex toys, or even just look around can be embarrassing for some, which is why we created this site for you to shop at your leisure, anonymously. Maybe you're ready to buy, but you are unsure of how to use them. Try some books or instructional videos, there are a lot to choose from, and provide a lot of information. Here are some things to remember once you're ready.
Start out slowly; there's no need to jump ahead and go for a strap-on as your first pick! Find what you're comfortable with and work your way up.
Always remember to use a generous amount of lubrication, so things slide easily.
Remember to be flexible and patient. Maybe the toy you've picked isn't right for you. That's ok, the right one is out there! If you or your partner has a change of heart, try again another time.
Using a sex toy with your lover is an excellent way to strengthen your relationship and intimacy. Sharing this experience can bring you closer and reaffirm your trust. Make the decisions together, and go for it!
Sex Toy Dictionary
The Sex Toy Experience - by SweetSpicy
