Giving Good Head- Guide to Fellatio Techniques

Ahh, fellatio, blowjobs, sucking cock.

Whatever you call it, the men desire it, the women dread it. Interestingly, most men I know refuse to date a woman if she doesn't give fellatio, and sadly, few women I know like to or even will give head. This is a sad situation, as oral sex is a very pleasurable experience for a man. I believe most women dislike fellatio for two reasons. One: they hate the taste; two: they aren't confident in their skill. I decided to do this article because I spoke with several men, and found that very few of their many blowjob experiences had been satisfactory. So, I thought I would help and give some pointers, and maybe some of those women will change their minds.

Fellatio Basics

Get comfortable first. You don't want to be in a bad position while performing fellatio, as it's very disruptive to both parties, and can not only ruin the moment, but make the experience less enjoyable for you, the giver. A good position to start is kneeling so your mouth is slightly lower than his penis, as you have good control, and if you tilt your head back when he cums, the semen will go right down your throat without much effort on your part. This also helps the taste issue.

A good basic motion is to place your hand against your mouth and move them in an up and down motion together. This gives the whole penis stimulation, while giving the head the most pleasurable stimulation with your mouth. Make sure when you come up and down, that your thumb and forefinger go over the head. There is a small ridge of skin on the underside of the penis directly below the head called the frenulum, which is extremely sensitive. Make sure your thumb strokes this in that movement.

Fellatio Techniques

Vary your movements, as the same motion for too long will desensitize your partner. Play with it! Make it fun! Lick it, kiss it, nibble it, suck it, blow on it, run your tongue up the entire shaft while looking up at him, and don't neglect the testicles! They are quite sensitive to touch, especially from your mouth, and most men love some kind of stimulation here. Also, a little teasing by kissing other areas of the body such as the inner thighs is quite exciting.

A lot of women are afraid to apply pressure to the penis, as they think it is very delicate. While you don't want to be too rough, it is pretty flexible, so just use good judgment. The testicles, on the other hand, be extremely gentle with.

Don't use your teeth, unless you know your partner likes it. Some men like it when you gently run your teeth up the shaft occasionally. Keep your lips over your teeth, and try to be aware of this as you are performing.

Always, always, always, remember to look into his eyes. Men find this extremely erotic, it's an important part of their visual stimulation.

Teach your throat to relax. A lot of women have trouble with blowjobs because it makes them gag, and this is easily remedied. All you need is a little practice. Get a dildo, a carrot, a zucchini, or something, and practice with it by letting it touch the back of your throat upon insertion. It will take several tries, but you will soon learn how to relax, greatly improving your blowjob skills. Eventually, you will be able to have anything touch the back of your throat, a finger, a pen, and yes, a cock, without any reflex. When you have mastered this, you man will thank you, as I have not yet met one that did not like to feel his whole dick in someone's mouth. In fact, some men can get off quickly just by making the head touch the back of your throat repeatedly.

To spit or to swallow?

Well, if you want my personal opinion, I think it's imperative to swallow. Most men I've talked to say they are really turned off by a woman spitting, and they would rather she didn't take the cum in her mouth at all. I think this issue is more emotional than physical. I definitely think that it is more sexually arousing for a man to orgasm in someone's mouth rather than on a body part such as a woman's breasts due to the warmth, wetness, etc. (although if you are not going to swallow, I would suggest this instead of spitting), however I believe a bigger issue is how it makes the man feel. It is a kind of rejection when a woman spits, and not only is watching a woman spit just disgusting, it makes him feel disgusting, like there is something gross about him. It turns something intimate into something as casual as chewing gum. I say, if it's already in your mouth, you might as well swallow it. The taste won't disappear just because you spit it out. Men do have quite a taste to them, kind of like salty chalk, and I can't say that it's appealing, however I think you should try to acquire it, as it can make all the difference to him, and isn't that the point?

Macrobiotic nutritionists have actually done research on how to make semen taste better, and the verdict is in: you are what you eat. In general, nutritionists say that alkaline-based foods such as meats and fish produce a bitter taste. Dairy products, which contain a high bacterial breakdown level create the foulest tasting fluids by far, although some say asparagus is even worse. Acidic fruits, such as sweets, fruits, and alcohol give bodily fluids a pleasant, sugary flavor. Chemically processed liquors will cause an extremely acidic taste, however, so if you're going to drink alcohol, drink high-quality, naturally fermented beers (ex. Rolling Rock). Tobacco is also a big no-no.

Five Minute Fellatio

Again, make sure you are comfortable! Begin by gently stroking, kissing and blowing on the area around the penis: the testicles, inner thighs and lower belly. The point in the beginning is to get him so hard for you that he anticipates every movement. Your first move should be exciting and fun, like taking the entire length in one swoop, taking just the head, licking lightly up the shaft or placing a kiss on the head. With the entire penis in your mouth, apply gentle suction with the back and top parts of your mouth while moving your tongue around on the frenulum. Don't do this for long, just get comfortable with the motion and give him a taste of what's to come. Play with the penis for about two minutes. Kiss, lick, tease, mouth and stroke it. Do the same for the testicles. Have fun. Vary your technique from moment to moment to get him so hot he can't stop wiggling. Begin fellating more quickly using an up-and-down motion with your mouth. Apply a bit of pressure and suction and use your tongue, continuing the up-and-down motion. Wrap one of your hands around the base of his penis just beneath your mouth and move them up and down together. Play with his testicles with your other hand. Get a steady rhythm going and don't change it. Add some suction and frenulum tonguing, and he should cum after about a minute.

Some other ways I have found to do quickies: Do the "basic motion" described in the first section fairly quickly, only use a very light touch with your hand. The light touch over the frenulum can be extremely exciting to some men; As briefly mentioned in the first section, take in the entire length, letting the head touch the back of your throat. Doing this repeatedly as your entire act can send a man into orgasm in under two minutes, if he is particularly sensitive to this! Remember to pay attention to what gets your partner hot, and use that to get him to orgasm.

Everyone is different. Communication is the most important part of sex. Talk to your partner about his likes and dislikes, and you too can be a Blowjob Queen!