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If you're thinking about spicing things up in the bedroom, why not try something alternative? Sex doesn't just have to be foreplay and intercourse. There are so many areas to explore that can heighten your experience and create a special intimacy with your partner. Here are some basic guidelines to follow:
Decide on what you what interests you. There are a lot of great instructional videos out there to give you some ideas. Try watching one like Making Sex Fun Vol. 3.
When you have found something that seems exciting to you, talk it over with your partner. Make sure the two of you are comfortable with the idea before introducing it into your lovemaking.
Remember to set boundaries together. Know what is allowed by each of you and what is not. This is very important to your intimate relationship, as going too far can deeply affect one's trust. You should decide on a "safe" code word that will direct your partner to stop. Pick something non-sexual, so there will be no misunderstandings.
If you are ready to discover a new area of sexual play, we have several ideas to get you started.
Acting out your fantasies is not only fun, but a great way to take you lovemaking to another level. You can do anything and be anyone when role playing, which is what makes it so exciting. Things you might be afraid to say or do, your character can, which can be quite liberating. You can find some great costumes at our lingerie shop!
One common fetish is having sex in front of others or while people are listening. If this is too drastic for you, just having sex in a public place where someone could catch you is another option. The anxiety you feel by the thought of someone seeing you heightens your senses, and can increase your arousal. The most common places are in parked cars, bathrooms, beaches, parks, and patios or apartment balconies. Of course, if you want to try this, make sure you choose an area where the chances of being caught are low; being arrested for indecent exposure just might ruin the mood! Have you ever been out, and your level of lust reached so high that you contemplated having sex right there? Go for it! This type of situation can give you the little push that you need.
Talking dirty in bed can be very erotic, although many people are a little inhibited to do so. You may feel it's embarrassing or degrading, however dirty talk doesn't have to be. You do not have to spew out obscenities to turn-on your partner, you can start slow by just moaning or muttering a couple words. Once you feel more comfortable, you can move to asking your partner what they want, telling them what you want, narrating what you are doing/going to do, and asking/telling them how it feels. Move at your own pace, and say it with confidence.
For many people, anal sex is the ultimate taboo. You may have feelings that it's dirty, degrading, or painful. However, anal sex can be quite pleasurable, mentally and physically. The "forbidden" can be very arousing, because it forces us to stretch our limits; something that is both scary and exciting. Physically, anal sex can be even more satisfying than both intercourse and oral sex. The anus has a large amount of nerve endings, and is very sensitive to the touch. The majority of people who have never experimented with anal sex assume it refers exclusively to penetration, however it is actually the rarest form of anal play. External stimulation is the most common, and is a good start for a beginner. Try getting an instructional video like Nina Hartley's Guide to Anal Sex for more detailed guidance.
Light forms of bondage can be a fun way to explore interesting possibilities in your sexual life. These are mostly concentrated on teasing your partner, rather than completely dominating, which is more advanced. You may enjoy a light spanking with a paddle. Slipping a blindfold over your partner's eyes can allow you to stimulate their imagination, especially if you add things like feather ticklers. Restraining your lover with your hands or cuffs can allow you to tease with total control, which can get them really hot, because they have to wait for you to satisfy their desire.
Whichever new fetish you choose, remember to communicate with your partner, and keep an open mind. Let the games begin!
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